The changes I notice after having worked with Jake for 12 weeks are tremendous.
When I first started working with him, I had recently taken a depression test. The score told me I was "medium depressed".
I couldn't remember the last time I felt joy.
I spent a lot of energy thinking about my past.
I held tightly on to the belief that by doing enough healing I would eventually get to a place where I would not be a burden. If I could figure out a way to be non-reactive, to not feel upset, always be at ease with whatever happened - then I would have a good relationship with my mom and dad, I would have friends who wanted to spend time with me, I would find a romantic partner and I would feel good about myself.
To sum it up: if I could just fix myself I would be lovable.
My perspective has shifted from believing that if I can just heal my past I will be loved in the future, to feeling like I can be loved as I am - Now!
Having Jake's balanced take on healing, has been the biggest gift I could ever imagine.
Our first session focused on outlining my needs and wants, resolving the relationship with my dad, being able to receive, and to increasing my income.
I'm happy to see improvements in all areas.
I wish I could show you upward numbers as a testament to why you should consider working with Jake, but the truth is, no numbers can do him justice.
My life has improved because I have been seen, deeply.
I'm starting to feel like I have value because every aspect of me have been understood and accepted as they are.
Not many therapists are able to do that.
I have worked with more than a dozen therapists, I have never been with someone whom I could be completely vulnerable with, not once.
I'm closer to my goals because Jake is adept at using the right tool at the right time.
He is highly capable of doing deep inner healing, but the fact that he is not limited to that makes a great difference.
You can't process life away. Believing that you have to process anything in order to be loved is not true.
People who want to, and are capable of, loving you as you are - they exist.
I'm starting to feel the truth in that after having worked with Jake.